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Couples Therapy
In-Person and Telehealth

It’s normal for couples to experience ups and downs - it’s part of being in a relationship. But sometimes, a clash can run deeper, or perhaps the conflict is happening more often.

Think about your relationship with your partner(s). Do you…

1. Feel unsatisfied?
2. Feel that your trust has been broken?
3. No longer feel sexually compatible with each other?
4. Keep having the same argument over and over?
5. Feel generally frustrated, angry, or hurt?
6. Have mixed feelings or have “fallen out of love?”
7. Express uncertainty about whether your relationship can be saved?

If any of the above sounds like you, now is a good time to contact Bright Future Counseling to start healing your relationship.

What is Couples Therapy?

The American Counseling Association (ACA) describes couples counseling as a way to help resolve conflicts or heal wounds. By attending therapy, couples can learn to “slow down their spiral and reestablish realistic expectations and goals.”

The ultimate goal of couples therapy is to help romantic partner(s) foster understanding and empathy to create a more fulfilling relationship. While each relationship is unique, a major goal of couples therapy is improving communication.

The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists found that 90% of couples who complete couples counseling with a licensed counselor report an improvement in their emotional health and comfort in their relationship.

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How Couples Therapy Can Help

Couples therapy can help achieve clarity, restore affection, increase sexual/emotional satisfaction, and rebuild trust and respect. Talking through your issues, combined with therapeutic exercises and strategies, can ultimately empower couples toward a more secure and satisfying partnership.

Whether regarding basic concerns or even considering divorce, couples therapy focuses on getting you back on the same page with your significant other(s).

Valinda Harlan (she/her) is a relationship specialist who enjoys helping couples find hope, gain new skills, heal from past hurt, and move forward to more satisfying relationships. Valinda has been married for 30 years, so she also possesses real experience in a long-term relationship.

I have specialized training in

Gottman Marriage Therapy, EFT Emotionally Focused Therapy, Discernment Counseling, Sex Therapy-Sexual Health, Internal Family Systems 

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Some areas we can focus on in couples counseling include

  • Improving Relationship Satisfaction

  • Relationship Repair

  • Addressing Infidelity

  • Communication & Conflict Resolution

  • Bettering Sexual & Emotional Intimacy

  • Work through differing interests (i.e. one of us is leaning towards ending the relationship vs. one of us wants to keep trying)

  • Counseling for Divorce

Non-Traditional Couples Welcome

Bright Future Counseling is an inclusive practice that welcomes all couples to participate in counseling. No matter your sexuality, gender, or the structure of your relationships, I provide a welcoming, unprejudiced space for you and your partner(s) to work through your issues.

More Therapy Options Offered at Bright Future Counseling

One-on-one counseling to address challenges in your life and work towards taking control of

your life.

Sexuality or gender-affirming counseling for LGBTQIA individuals.

Counseling for religious and spiritual abuse.

Resources for Relationships

The 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work by John Gottman - Relationship Advice ► Book Summary

The 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work by John Gottman - Relationship Advice ► Book Summary

An animated book summary of The 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman. Explainer Video by OnePercentBetter. Get 2 Free Audiobooks ► Get This Book ► ** RESOURCES ** Subscribe For More: ► ** HIGHLIGHTS ** 0:13 - PRINCIPLE 1: Enhance Your Love Maps 1:07 - PRINCIPLE 2: Nurture Your Fondness & Admiration 1:55 - PRINCIPLE 3: Turn Toward Each Other Instead Of Away 2:28 - PRINCIPLE 4: Let Your Partner Influence You 3:14 - PRINCIPLE 5: Solve Your Solvable Problems 5:30 - PRINCIPLE 6: Overcome Gridlock 6:09 - PRINCIPLE 7: Create Shared Meaning ** SUMMARY ** John M. Gottman is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington. He has spent his life doing comprehensive studies on what makes a healthy marriage. He offers relationship advice to save your marriage. ** EQUIPMENT ** Software: VideoScribe ► Camera: Canon T4i ► Microphone: Blue Yeti ► Pop Filter ► ** LET'S CONNECT! ** Patreon ► Website ► Facebook ► Twitter ► Instagram ► ** RELATED CHANNELS ** FightMediocrity illacertus LearningREADefined ObtainEudaimonia Optimize Your Journey Lifelonglearning MeaningAZ Bookjuice 2000 Books For Business Inquiries Email: ★★★ WHAT SOFTWARE DO I USE? ★★★ VideoScribe - Get it here ► ★★★ WANT TO READ MORE IN LESS TIME? ★★★ Get Blinkist - 1,800+ best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful shorts you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes ► -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "The 50th Law by Robert Greene and 50 Cent ► Book Summary" -~-~~-~~~-~~-~-
Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel | TED

Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel | TED

Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized Talk recommendations and more. Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships. The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You're welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know. Follow TED on Twitter: Like TED on Facebook: Subscribe to our channel: TED's videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy ( For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at
Infidelity: to stay or go…? | Lucy Beresford | TEDxFolkestone

Infidelity: to stay or go…? | Lucy Beresford | TEDxFolkestone

We assume that ending a relationship after betrayal is the best course of action. Yet relationship expert and broadcaster Lucy Beresford passionately argues that the more courageous option is to stay and rebuild that relationship. Drawing from her work with clients (details changed for confidentiality) and from celebrity culture (the rapper Jay-Z spoke publicly about cheating on his wife Beyoncé), in this talk Lucy identifies: - the 3 courageous ways the betrayer and the betrayed can start to repair their relationship; - the 3 things the betrayer MUST do, to rebuilt trust; and - the Number 1 thing all couples must do to protect their relationship from being blown off course Lucy Beresford hosts LBC Radio’s Sex and Relationships show as well as the show Love Decoded for dating website eHarmony, and is an Agony Aunt on ITV’s This Morning. She’s the author of 4 books, including the global best-seller Happy Relationships: at home, work and play. She works as a psychotherapist at The Grace Clinic, London and from time to time at The Delhi Psychiatry Centre in India under Dr. Sunil Mittal. Feel free to get in touch with her on Twitter @lucyberesford or visit her website Lucy is a writer, broadcaster, psychotherapist and documentary maker – in other words, a global storyteller. She hosts LBC Radio’s Sex & Relationships phone-in show, reviews the newspapers on Sky News, and is an Agony Aunt on ITV’s This Morning. She even blogs for Huffington Post UK Lifestyle. She was shortlisted for ‘Dating Expert of the Year 2015′ by UK Dating Awards, is on the Faculty of The School of Life and is a Fellow of the RSA. Interesting fact? Just the once, off Victoria Falls bridge in Zimbabwe, Lucy did bungee jumping. It changed her life – in a fantastic way. Now she bungee-jumps metaphorically, leaping into the unknown and having adventures. Like TEDx…? This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at
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"We have been seeing Valinda for maybe 4 years. She is the best! She’s invested. She cares. And always helps us find the answer! Our marriage is better, our personal selves are better!! I just think she is one of the best Therapists we have ever seen!!"

Nanci Villanueva

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